Found out my girlfriend cheated on me
I've been dating my girlfriend for seven years and I plan to marry her, but recently, I learned that she cheated on me about a year ago on two separate occasions. She was living abroad for a few months and during that time, she was with two different guys, including one who was married. During that time, she also stopped talking to me. I'm very disturbed.SEE VIDEO BY TOPIC: My girlfriend gilsbread.com my best friend (showing real text messages) - #gaslighting #breakups
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Then cried every day for about 18 months. Got up and sped home to punch a hole in my bedroom wall. I was fairly upset. She was texting and calling for a couple of days before I told her what I found. I cried a lot and got pretty angry. Spent a day blitzing through my house throwing out anything that reminded me of her, left a bag of her stuff outside.
Blocked her and her family on everything. Spent the last month redecorating, reconnecting with friends and changing up my lifestyle. Turns out it was planned. She had been cheating on me with several other soldiers. So we broke up, obviously. She gave me back my ring. I crawled into a bottle and had the best 18 months of my life. I was in shock, and we just kind of sat in the same room for about 10 minutes. It was so creepy, she just sat there with no expression, then she went to bed.
About 15 minutes later, I walked in, told her to get out. Suddenly she burst into tears. I shut the door and sat in the room for a while, not even tired. They took her to the looney bin after a quick hospital trip. Even better, the SS-lady called me up a day or two later and wanted to schedule someone to pick up her car that was still in my driveway.
Yeah, sure, no problem, who is it? We were really happy. She complained that I was gaining weight. Joined the gym again because I wanted to keep her happy, but this meant I came home later at night. After a couple of weeks of this, I suspected something was wrong. When I came home, she would rather hang out with some of the guest, than be with me at night. This particular night, I joined her, playing poker with some of the guests.
I had a long day at work and went to the gym, so I was a bit tired. All of them have been playing cards and drinking the entire afternoon.
I said goodnight and went to bed. A while later I had a bad feeling and went to check on everyone. No one is there. Everyone went to bed, and my GF is not in our place with me. I called her, no answer. I see the shirtless guest in the background locking his door when he saw me.
I filled with rage. She was immediately mad at me, for being too suspicions. I promise. Never understood it. I get it now. I met an awesome girl now, quit smoking, was still working out and advanced a lot at my job! Feel awesome and happy! Secretly I was making plans. It helped we were planning to move so we were packing, and the cheater never noticed I packed my things in separate boxes. Time came like a week later , and I had cheater drop me at work. I had already explained to them, and they knew I was leaving the state.
Got picked up by my ex. Moved back home two states away. Cheater realized it when she got home and all sorts of things mine were missing. Called me. Had her mom call me. Mom said good for you in a long conversation. Mad, sad, disappointment, and disbelief.
I called her and asked if it was true, and she lied to me, I saw the texts that she thought she had hidden. I gave her a hug, walked out her house and blocked her from everything. No way was I dealing with that shit again. I never did the hit the gym kind of thing, I just ate myself into a depression. Then I snooped on her phone, there it was in black and white, or red and white seeing as it was Tinder.
I was still in denial ate that point. Probably still in love then too… even when finally she admitted it. Whilst I feel like dogshit? Therapy inbound. Guess I forgot the last step. Somehow, she managed to hide not only her husband but two kids. I was out with a couple of friends one night, sitting on a restaurant patio drinking and eating Cajun food, and just happened to see her and some guy strolling through the parking lot.
Next time we met up, I confronted her about it, and she broke down. I ended it then and there. I felt disgusted with not only her, but myself. My father left my mother and I for another woman he had gotten pregnant when I was about 3, so I have a zero tolerance limit when it comes to cheating. To be put in that spot made me hate myself in a way. I was afraid that if I did, I would still end up as the guy who wrecked a family.
What does that mean? I was angry at her, but mostly I was just hurt. She started kissing me, then we were having sex, and she started crying during and we stopped, and we both fell asleep on the couch for some reason I have no idea why. I had left for a week-long road-trip with my family as a vacation, and also so I could tour a couple of colleges I was interested in. Fast forward, I got back and we met up, and she looked so so sad, almost on the verge of tears. She gave me a huge hug and I asked her why she was so upset.
It was then she told me… that she wanted to break up. Blindsided and confused, I wanted to know why. I think young and dumb me also thought if I knew the reason, I could try and change her mind. I told her that whatever it was, we could fix it. She was touching my hand when she told me, and the part I remember the most was pulling away as fast as I could. After the truth came out, she started bawling and tried desperately to stay together.
She told me that whatever it was, we could fix it. It was hard to do, but breaking up then was one of the best decisions of my life. To this day I have never badmouthed her to anyone about the whole thing. It was a decision she made, it is what it is. I blew off some steam the 24 hours directly after I found it, and have never looked back.
One night I saw her being very protective of her tablet that she usually used for gaming. I let it slide for the most part, but the next morning when I went downstairs, it was sitting out on the coffee table. I turned it on and saw her email was opened and an email to herself was still open.
I immediately felt sick to my stomach. The shame that went with it was incredible. Thinking I had to keep this secret to not appear a failure to family, friends, and coworkers. There was a message that was sent 4 hours before I woke up where she told him I was asleep and that she loved him so much. I was crushed. My main disbelief is that she had thought it was worth saving and sending an email to herself of the transcript of their chats, like a love memento. I walked back upstairs with the tablet and confronted her with it.
The relationship up to this point had been strictly online as they lived in different states, but it was still little consolation to the fact that for 3 months she had been cheating on me.
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I imagine your stomach feels like it just got ripped clean out. I should know. She already did it. So once you know the answer, continue on below.
Then cried every day for about 18 months. Got up and sped home to punch a hole in my bedroom wall. I was fairly upset. She was texting and calling for a couple of days before I told her what I found.
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But things are not as simple as that in your head. You have all these thoughts in your head, all these feelings in your chest, all these emotions in your heart. I am sorry you are going through this. The purpose of this article is to help you process all the thoughts in your head. To help you figure out what you want from her and life in general. I will be a little more detailed than that. But I will ask you that you take action on what I say here. Unless you take action, your mind will keep running in circles trying to figure out what you should do after your girlfriend cheated on you.
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